Honoring a Friend and Mentor By Following His Example

I haven’t had time to finish my post honoring my friend, boss, advisor and mentor Tom Donohue, the long-time president of the U.S. Chamber of Commerce whose funeral service I attended last week. I did, however, have an opportunity to follow his example today. Tom would have approved.

One of Tom’s life rules was “If you can help someone, young or old, in their career, do it.” He explained his dedication to this practice by saying, simply, “It’s the right thing to do. If you do it for others, they will do it for someone else when they are in a position to help. It makes society better. It maks life better.” And indeed, when I was in a protracted job search after leaving the Chamber, Tom made calls for me, and set up some networking meetings. (One was with Mitch McConnell’s wife, Elaine Chao, who treated me like poop on her shoe. But that’s another story…)

Today, in a busy, troubled day, I reluctantly listened to a sales pitch from a Verizon representative who knocked on my door offering special high-speed internet deals. He was a young African American man, in his twenties, and I was impressed with his poise and demeanor. I spend an hour talking with him—yes, I signed up to finally dump Comcast—and we learned a lot about each other. He told me he was starting up his own business while working for Verizon, and confessed to being a little frightened of the risk and the looming challenges of management. I shared some favorite stories about the national culture of risk taking and my own experiences with success and failure.

After our meeting I kept thinking about the kid, and for some reason Tom’s words came back to me while I was walking Spuds. Upon returning home, I called the young man; he had left his contact information. I told him that he had given me a good deal, and I wanted to offer him a deal in return: as an ethicist, I was available to him for advice and guidance at any point in his business adventures or in life. He just had to call.

He was exuberantly thankful, and I said, “Now make sure you call me before you make a mistake, if you can. But I’ll be helpful after one too. I’m serious about this.”

Who knows if he’ll really seek my advice? But at least he knows he has the resource.

And for me, it was the right thing to do.

Thanks Tom. Again.

2 thoughts on “Honoring a Friend and Mentor By Following His Example

  1. On an otherwise dismal day (even if my preferred candidate wins, the ensuing chaos is sure to harm our country), you have cheered me. You touched more than one life with that act today. Thank you Jack.

  2. This brings to mind the insufferable TV commercial campaign by the insurance company that wants to help young people to not become their parents. Why is the U.S. the only country and culture where elders are not just ignored but denigrated? Wouldn’t be a good thing if younger people became their parents. The commercials mock people for being chatty and friendly with strangers. What’s the goal here? To deny younger people the benefit of experiences attained by their elders?

    Anyway, nice work, Jack. It’s nice being appreciated by a younger person, non?

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