“One thing that would change all of our spirit and all of our society is if we would just change one thing. Instead of coming up to somebody and saying, ‘How are you today?’ Why don’t you say, ‘Who did you help today?'”
—Former NFL and college coach Nick Saban, now ESPN broadcaster, in his speech after receiving the “Icon” award at the ESPY’s the sports networks annual awards show.
Ugh. Maybe ethics instruction should never be left to amateurs.
No, Coach, that’s a terrible idea. It’s not friendly or uplifting to challenge everyone you meet to prove how kind and virtuous they are to your specifications. I don’t want to live in a society where every encounter is going to require me to validate my existence by proving that I have met some kindness quota.
The appropriate response to that gratuitous and obnoxious challenge is “None of your damn business!” or better still “Bite me.” Similarly, I don’t care to have a stranger, associate or friend begin a conversation with “Have you given to the homeless today?,” “Have you smiled at a stranger?,” Have you hugged your child?,” or “Have you thanked the Lord for His bounty?”
Sure, I know what Nick was trying to say, but if you can’t say what you mean to say more effectively than that, then don’t say anything. His heart may have been in the right place, but his brain and his tongue weren’t.







