Of course not.
On the the sub-Reddit “AmITheAsshole” board, a father consulted the group as to whether it would be wrong for him to warn daughter’s fiancé-to-be that she’s been diagnosed as a clinical sociopath. She is attracted to her boyfriend, he said, she has told him in the past that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, nor guilt or grief. Yup, that sounds like a sociopath, all right. A doctor diagnosed the daughter as suffering from antisocial personality disorder at age 18.
“She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help,” Dad wrote. “Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty, and all other types of misbehaviors. With an enormous amount of therapy and support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older.”
Her boyfriend has no idea, the father believes, what kind of person he will be marrying, and the father believes that he has a right to know, saying, “I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this ‘secret’ from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.”
Yet since her diagnosis, the daughter seems to have her behavior under control. She has a good job, successfully navigated through college and has many friends. She is also popular on the dating scene.
The Reddit participants seem to have been flummoxed by the father’s dilemma. I’m not. The ethical course is clear. Continue reading