
Guest Post by Steve Witherspoon
[My first reaction to this passionate guest post was “Gee, how do you really feel, Steve?” My second was “The opinions expressed are not necessarily those of the host.” My third is: I wouldn’t laugh yet. One of my oldest friends is visiting D.C. to meet his new grandson, birthed by the wife of his former daughter, now son. When I went to the memorial service of a former thoroughly Irish Catholic boss from the streets of Brooklyn, I discovered that two of his three sons, all of whom I knew as children, are now middle aged women, and seemingly very happy about it. A close member of my immediate family is “transitioning.” Whatever it is that’s going on here, its getting dig in like a tick.]
I have raised the question in an earlier essay titled, What’s Considered Normal, where I looked into the differences between what is considered to be “normal” and “abnormal”. You can read the arguments presented in the entire post if you like, but I’ll briefly summarize some of the details as I go along in this essay.
I think it’s extremely important that everyone understands the core of an argument based on the words used and how those words are defined. So with that in mind, let’s start by presenting some generally accepted “norms”.
NORMAL
- Conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected
- Conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern..
- …characterized by that which is considered usual, typical, or routine.
- If something conforms to a general pattern, standard, or average, we describe it as normal.
ABNORMAL
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Deviating from what is normal or usual.
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Not normal, average, typical, or usual.
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Something that is abnormal is out of the ordinary, or not typical
ENABLING
- Supporting or allowing (whether intentionally or unintentionally) harmful or destructive individual behaviors thus preventing the individual from facing either the consequences of their choices and/or generally accepted reality.
Dysfunctional: Deviating from the norms of social behavior in a way regarded as bad.
Delusional: Characterized by or holding false beliefs or judgments about reality that are held despite incontrovertible evidence to the contrary, typically as a symptom of a mental condition.
Now that we have the terms settled, on to the core of this essay…
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