I woke up this morning to find that Grace, the love of my life, my partner, lover, best friend and more, had passed away during the night. I had no warning at all; she had been having some health issues but nothing that suggested that she was in mortal peril.
We were married for 43 years.
I had a scheduled legal ethics seminar, and, of course, taught it as planned. After all, it was about professionalism.
I may write some more about this, depending on how I feel as the day goes on.
Ethics Alarms 
Jack, please accept my condolences. Very sorry for your loss.
Dan
Thanks, Dan. I have no idea what to do right now.
Jack wrote, “I have no idea what to do right now.”
No one ever really knows what to do when this happens. It’s moment to moment, hour to hour, and day to day. But in the midst of all the unfamiliar shock, chaos, and grieving that is to come, please make sure you take some time to reminisce and find peace and comfort in those special moments that you got to shared together.
Peace.
Steve
Jack,
I am so sorry for your loss.
You don’t know me, other than through the occasional comment I post here. But you and your blog have had a profound impact on my thinking and on my life, for which I am grateful.
When I opened the site a few minutes ago I saw the picture and thought, “Jack looks happier and more lighthearted there than I imagine him to be from his writing.” Then I read the first sentence, (I hadn’t processed the headline), and was overcome with sadness. I don’t really know you, and didn’t know your wife, but I was tearing up. You have my deepest condolences.
As to what to do next, my suggestion would be to gather a support group around you. Your sister and son come to mind, but perhaps other close friends and relatives will step up as well. There are four things, not in any particular order, that come to mind that need to be taken care of:
I hope those close to you gather around to help you with all these things to lighten your burden somewhat, and that you will let them. I wrote the least about #4, but it’s probably the most important. Don’t skimp on that one.
My thoughts are with you.
Best,
Jon
Oh no Jack. I’m so sorry. My condolences to you you and your son. May you find comfort in friends and family in your time of need.
Oh my, please accept my condolences Jack.
So very very sorry for your loss.
Now is the time to spend with your family and close family friends.
My deepest condolences, and support for you. Do not hesitate to tell us how we, individually or communally, can help you.
Jack, I am so sorry. May her memory be a blessing.
Jack,
Our condolences for your loss. Sara and I will keep you all in our prayers. Be with your family.
Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her.
Ryan, Sara, and kids.
Jack, I’m so sorry and saddened. Grace was such a special person. I know how much she meant to you and how deep your loss is. Take time for yourself. My condolences to you and Grant. You are all in my thoughts and heart. I will hold you in my healing circle.
Dear Mr Marshall,
I am so sorry to learn of Grace Marshall’s passing. She was greatly loved and will be greatly missed. You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers
Sincerely, Hal Morlan hal@halmorlan.com
Jack, Condolences to you and your son. May her memory be a sweet blessing in this time of grief.
Jack: I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now but I wanted to offer deep condolences for your loss. Grace was a gem – I think I corresponded more with her than you via email and phone over the years and am sad that I never had the chance to meet her. I know we almost had dinner in DC several years back but the stars were not aligned that evening.
PS: the fact that, despite this, you taught the ethics seminar anyway brought a wry, slightly confused, smile to my face. Was it the right thing to do? I have no idea. Am I shocked that you did? Not really. That’s the Jack I know and am proud to know.
Wishing you the best,
James
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Jack; deepest sympathies.
Paul W. Schlecht
My deepest condolences.
Damn. Terribly sorry, Jack. I never met Grace, but it sounds like she was an amazing blessing. I am doubly sorry that you had no warning this was coming. please accept my condolences and those of my family. If I can help in any way, please let me know. May she rest in peace.
All of the above Jack. The sadness and emotional pain must be overwhelming right now. Embrace your grief until your heart eventually settles into acceptance, understanding, and peace. That is such a good picture of you two together. May your memories together be a healing salve for your wounded heart. Your community loves you…
Truer words could not be written!
All of the above Jack. The sadness and emotional pain must be overwhelming right now. Embrace your grief until your heart eventually settles into acceptance, understanding, and peace. That is such a good picture of you two together. May your memories together be a healing salve for your wounded heart. Your community loves you…
Jack,
I am very sorry for your (and Grant’s) loss. Grace sounded like a lovely person and I could tell how much you enjoyed having her as your life partner. I know that her memory will become a blessing, but I can’t even imagine the pain and shock you are feeling and will continue to feel.
Very sincerely,
Karen Burke
(a long-time reader, if not much of a commenter)
Jack – My deepest condolences to you for the loss of your partner and soulmate.
John and Nancy Cooney
My condolences for this sudden loss. Please give time and space to yourself and your son to grieve.
My deepest condolences.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this time of deep sorrow and sweet remembrance.
Rest in Peace, Grace Marshall.
Jack,
I’m so sorrry to read this. My condolences, I can’t even imagine…