Let’s pray for a more ethical culture…
1. Unethical meme of the last couple hours or so...Esteemed Ethics Alarms commenter Curmie (Where have you gone Curmie? Ethics Alarms turns its lonely eyes to you… Oo-oo-oo…) posted this on Facebook, I assume in a tongue in cheek mood, since I know that he has a brain:
Sadly, it was greeted with cheers from the Facebook Borg as if the message was profound. This is a good illustration, however, of the intellectual rigor of the open borders crowd, which, please note, includes almost all of the Democratic Presidential hopefuls. How can you argue seriously with people this silly and shallow?
2. And an unethical sub-heading! Socialist propaganda turns up where you least expect it, which I guess is the idea. It’s insidious, and works on young brains like that bug Ricardo Montalban put in Chekhov’s ear in “The Wrath of Kahn.”
In this Sunday’s “Social Q’s” column, a weekly trove of ethics insight and blunders, a teacher complains about moving to a region where teacher salaries are much lower than what he is used to. The culture shock was required in order to accommodate his wife’s career opportunity to achieve her “dream job.” He says that he is obsessing about earning so much less, and even though he says he did not get into teaching for the money, and that his wife has the primary income in the family, he’s wondering if he will still be motivated to do his job at the drastically reduced salary.
Columnist Phillip Gallane’s answer is far too kind. What I would have said is that if your motivation to do the job you have contracted to do in your chosen profession is based on your compensation, you are in the wrong field, and you are letting non-ethical considerations dominate ethical ones to te detriment of those who have to trust you.
There’s nothing quite like making a sacrifice for a loved one and then being bitter about it afterwards. Gallanes does point out that since the teacher’s salary clearly isn’t crucial, he shouldn’t “stress about it” and should take satisfaction from allowing his wife to get her “dream job.”
The sub-heading for this segment in column: “It’s almost as if Capitalism is…broken?”
What??? Salaries are lower in parts of the country where commodities, including real estate and homes, cost less. There’s nothing broken about that. At one point Gallanes says that “salaries are often arbitrary,” which is nonsense. Capitalism isn’t “broken” when a teacher moves to an area where prices are lower, and his salary goes down as well. The assumption behind that headline is the fallacy behind the current “income disparity” debate, which is a warped comprehension of “fairness.”
Interestingly, this question is in the print version of the Sunday Times, but isn’t in the online version I just checked. Maybe an editor, or Gallanes, had second thoughts.
3. “Everybody Loves Raymond” Ethics. To be fair to Gallanes, today’s column does have an interesting ethics question I meant to write about a few months ago, but didn’t.
In an episode of the long running Ray Romano sitcom “Everybody Loves Raymond,” Ray’s sad sack brother finally finds the love of his life, proposes to her, and after she assents, agrees to ask her parents for her hand in marriage according to the ancient custom, because, she says, they would appreciate it, and it would endear him to them. So he asks..and they say no. Hilarity ensues. Spoiler: They get married anyway.
The question is whether it is ethical to ask for approval when the supplicant won’t take no for an answer. There are also the subsidiary issues, like whether the tradition is demeaning to the intended bride, since the tradition dates back to the bad old days when a woman was chattel.
Confession: I asked my wife’s parents for their blessing, and damn right I would have married her anyway if they had refused. The tradition has become a ritual like the father “giving away” the bride, and part of the ritual is for the parents to answer, “Yes!” or “Whatever she decides, we support.” (This does not apply, of course, if the daughter is 12.)
And, come to think of it, my parents would have gotten a big kick out of it if she had asked for their blessing too. If the “Everybody Loves Raymond” scenario occurs, then you have useful information: your future in-laws are assholes.
Good to know.