The first Ethics Alarms post on my new “Ideapad,” in a DoubleTree in Fairfield, New Jersey, at about 1 am, after a miserable 4 and a half-hour drive. Fortunately for you and me, it is a Comment of the Day, in which johnburger213 has done all the thought. It’s a tale of multiple jerks and assholes, with a child involved and the news media turning into a across-the-internet controversy a matter that in bygone days wouldn’t have traveled a city block.
Here is johnburger’s Comment of the Day that is only incidentally on the post, “Morning Ethics Warm-Up, 11/18/19: Complainers, Climate Hysterics, Tiny Tims And Fake News”:
Not exactly on point, but there is this story out of Texas: It seems a mom likes to put notes in her 5 year old son’s lunch kit* to remind him she loves him when he eats lunch at daycare. Well, as luck would have it, she put a note in his lunch, asking the daycare worker to tell her son she loves him very much. The daycare worker would have none of that nonsense, so he/she wrote the mother telling her to put her son on a diet instead. Here is a link to the story:
Now, the daycare worker is a jerk and should be strung up by his/her thumbs for doing something so idiotic. I wonder what goes through the mind of someone who deals with youngsters at a daycare who would tell the mother that said daycare worker would, in fact, NOT tell the child that mommy loves him/her, and would do so by writing a note back to the mother, effectively telling the mother she is a bad parent. Seems cruel to me.
But, I wonder why this was reported to the news media, and I wonder why the media picked up the story and made it go “viral”. When I searched for the story, it had been picked by the local Houston ABC affiliate, then the NY Post ran it, and so on. Why? Why would a parent involve the media and why would the media care about this? If it had been my son, my wife would not have thought about calling the media, though she would have marched down to the daycare and unceremoniously leveled the place with a well-placed anathema.
The mom, Francesca Easdon, appears to have contacted a lawyer. In the report, it looks like she is sitting in law office – she demands justice for . . . what? Not sure, but she wanted the employee fired, which apparently happened. Here is her Facebook page:
The post, dated November 13, tells me that there is a lot more going on behind the scenes. She threw out that she removed her son (name and all) from the daycare center and enrolled him somewhere else, thinly veiling a threat of litigation because she is ” . . . worried about the higher cost but I will make it work, no matter what I have to do.” So, is that it? Does she think she is going to score some cash in a lawsuit? If so, will the center cave in to end the bad publicity?
* Note: I do question the propriety of doing this as Helicopter Parenting but, hey, the kiddo is 5 and who doesn’t like nice notes in lunch kits? I prefer Hostess Fruit Pies but a nice note is acceptable. Especially given that Pottery Barn Kids, Barnes & Noble, Target, and a whole host of other retailers sell these things so I would assume it is not uncommon.