The Winter of Hate would seem like a good time to remember the Summer of Love, don’t you think?
1.Well, that’s nice! A man gets along with his brothers! Rich Juzwiak is Slate’s sex advisor. A recent male enquirer asked him, “I live in a large house along with six brothers, all adults and close to each other in age, two of whom I am having sex with….The problem is that I don’t know what to call this arrangement…”
Oh, is that the problem?
What’s an interesting though experiment is trying to define exactly what this big, happy family arrangement is unethical, or even if it is. What harm does it do to society or non-consenting people? It doesn’t risk unhealthy babies, or ruin the family heirarchy like male-female incest
It the fair and honest answer to the reader’s question, “What do you call it?” “I call it so icky I want to barf, not that there’s anything wrong with that”? Is this the best example of the Ick Factor ever?
How about, “I don’t know what to call it, but if you don’t sell it as a reality show, you’re all idiots” ?
An aside: This reminded me of my favorite Ann Landers question of all time. Ann’s readers said she was having an affair with the husband of a professional lady wrestler, who walked in on her and the cheating husband as they were getting disrobed. He babbled that she was his masseuse, and, incredibly, the credulous wrestler bought it. She asked the terrified mistress if she would give her a massage too, and, trapped, Ann’s inquirer agreed. The wrestler was pleased—so pleased that the woman is giving her weekly massages while continuing to have sex with the wrestler’s husband. What do you think was her question to Ann?
“Can I get in trouble for giving massages without a license?”
This convinced me that Ann Landers answered more fake questions than I previously assumed.
2. I don’t think “Better late than never” ever describes this stories: Theophalis Wilson, was finally released from prison after serving 28 years for a triple murder he didn’t commit, the Philadelphia Inquirer reported.
He was just 19 when he was tried and convicted in what Philadelphia district attorney’s office called the case a “perfect storm” of the justice system gone rogue, stating in a court filing that Wilson’ case included misconduct by the prosecution, an incompetent defense defense and a witness who supplied false testimony.
“This is a great day,” said Wilson, 48, who served in prison. “Now we’ve got to go back and get the other guys. There’s a lot of innocent people in jail.”
“It’s a beautiful day,” said his mother, Kim Wilson. “I just thank God it finally happened.”
Wilson was exonerated a month after his co-defendant, Christopher Williams, was cleared of the three 1989 killings. Wilson was a teenager when he was accused of participating in the slayings of Otis Reynolds and brothers Kevin and Gavin Anderson in north Philadelphia.
The Philadelphia district attorney’s office called the case a “perfect storm” of injustice, writing in a court filing that the case was marred by serious misconduct by the prosecution, an ineffective defense and a witness who supplied false testimony. That witness, who testified against Wilson and and his co-defendant, recanted after forensic specialists testified that physical evidence contradicted his earlier account of The witness, who was serving a life sentence for murder himself, confessed that he had provided false testimony in exchange for a deal to escape the death penalty.
How the defense attorney wasn’t able to impeach that kind of witness, I do not understand.
As usual in such cases of wrongful imprisonment, the victim was so thrilled to finally be free that he was only positive in his remarks. In court, Wilson was told that it was time for him to “go home “a free man” “with an apology.” “No words can express what we put these people through. What we put Mr. Wilson through. What we put his family through,” the prosecutor’s office representative said.
3. And the answer to that statement is another advice column story: A woman asked Phillip Gallanes of the Times’ “Social Q’s” column what she should have done after the pool attendant at a resort hotel in Hawaii found her lost hat and replied: “‘Thank you’ doesn’t pay the bills, ma’am” after she showered him with warm words but no tip. “My husband thought I should go back the next day with a $5 tip. My daughter-in-law thought I should report him for rudeness. And the others said: Let it go. That’s what I did, deciding that the $100 per room resort fee covered this. Thoughts?” she concluded. Gallanes said, in part,
“I advise patience and grace on your part. We all have bad days. I also like your husband’s idea of going back with a tip to thank the man for keeping track of your hat. (Not his job!) Now, I underscore that I’m referring to occasional lapses. If he tip-mongered daily, or was otherwise aggressive, I would have spoken to a manager.”
Ugh, Phil. Come right out and tell this rich cheapskate that she deserved to be told off. I’d also add that resorts have an obligation to let guests know that their staff works for for low wages, and depend on the gratitude and generosity of guests.
Maybe I’m influenced by a recent experience: a young woman who bagged my groceries was ordered by the checker to help me out by pushing the second cart that was needed to hold all the food I purchased. When we got to the car, I told her I could handle it from there, and I gave her a $10 tip. I have never seen a tip recipient act so shocked and thrilled. I thought she was going to cry.
4. Another columnist had a different issue to deal with, and perhaps its a democracy issue as well... Jon Caldara, president of the libertarian Independence Institute, announced that he has been fired from the Denver Post after being found by the editors found to be”too insensitive.” “What seemed to be the last straw for my column.” he posted on Facebookt, “was my insistence that there are only two sexes and my frustration that to be inclusive of the transgendered (even that word isn’t allowed) we must lose our right to free speech.”
Caldara had criticized an Associated Press directive saying that sex and gender are not binary. “There are only two sexes, identified by an XX or XY chromosome. That is the very definition of binary. The AP ruling it isn’t so doesn’t change science. It’s a premeditative attempt to change culture and policy. It’s activism,” he wrote on January 3 piece. Then, in a column two weeks later, Caldara objected to a 2019 Colorado law that required elementary school children to be instructed in transgender ideology.
Caldara says that he was fired by the paper’s editorial page editor, Megan Schrader, even as she said he was the page’s most-read columnist.