Here’s a another one: What the hell am I doing wrong?
Myka Stauffer is a so-called “online influencer,” meaning that she has such a huge following on social media that companies pay her to promote their products. Apparently being a social influencer has nothing to do with being smart, wise, ethical or a benefit to society. We know that because such wastes of DNA like the Kardashians are paid influencers—imagine making life decisions based on the recommendations of Kyie Jenner—but at least they have a TV show and have also demonstrated the ability to become rich with no discernible talent whatsoever. That’s something, at least.
Stauffer is a much bigger mystery. I read a profile of her, and am still flummoxed. She has around 700,000 YouTube followers and 200,000 Instagram followers because…why? Her mother had her when she was 16. “I got to go to some really cool parties [and] I got to go to a bunch of concerts, which is a perk of having younger parents,” she says. Otherwise her childhood was “basic, regular,” and she loved everything about it until her mom told her that her dad was not her biological father. “The next day I lost my virginity. I had planned to save myself for marriage. It wasn’t even a question in my mind,” says Stauffer. “When my identity was flipped upside down, everything went out the window.” Then she was grounded for an entire year as punishment, which gave her “lot of opportunity for self-growth.” Then Stauffer found religion…oh, never mind, you can read the whole banal story here if your sock drawer is in order. Her second husband is a car detailer, and she’s a vegan. And an inexplicably large, gullible audience of infantilized women with empty lives and the brain pans of grackles look to her for guidance about what to wear and buy.
This is the quality of character they now know they can expect: After documenting on YouTube and Instagram her successful efforts to adopt an autistic little boy, she and her husband decided to “rehome” him, using the term typically reserved for rotten pet owners who decide to get rid of a dog or cat. It’s a euphemism, of course. What she is doing is giving away her son, because he’s just too much darn trouble if you’re going to get all those Instagram posts and videos out.
Stauffer picked up plenty of checks as she documented the 2017 adoption of Huxley, a Chinese special needs toddler. Throughout the adoption process Stauffer wrote that she was fully aware of the boy’s needs, explaining that the child was “profoundly developmentally delayed.” In a 2019 article for the motherhood site The Bump, she wrote, “Huxley wasn’t the one who needed to change — it was me. My son has taught me to love completely and unconditionally, regardless of circumstances and without exceptions” Unconditionally!
This week, Stauffer told her audience of more than 900,000 that she and her husband “rehomed” the child to his “forever family.” “Forever family”…hmmm, where did I first hear that precious phrase? That’s right, it was on the Animal Planet show “Too Cute!” that documents the lives of puppy litters. That’s what the show calls the homes that adopt puppies.
“After multiple assessments, after multiple evaluations, numerous medical professionals have felt that he needed a different fit in his medical needs,” she wrote. “He needed more. There’s not an ounce of our body that doesn’t want Huxley with all of our being. There wasn’t a minute that I didn’t try our hardest. Do I feel like a failure as a mom? 500%. So when we get insidious, hurtful comments, it really makes the hurt worse,” she whined—but influentially.
Too bad your feelings are hurt, you utter creep. You know what the difference is between giving up a child you gave birth to for adoption and giving up a child you adopted? Absolutely nothing.
Huxley is 4 years old, and the couple he had learned to love and trust as his parents gave him away. Now take a gulp of Pepto ans you read this: Stauffer said that she made the decision, in part, because her son wanted to be placed in another family. “We would never just give up a child with special needs,” she said in since-deleted post. “This is a personal matter to Hux, it had nothing to do with he just had Autism.” Again, the kid is four. But the decision to leave his family, his siblings and his home to live with strangers was his call… he”wanted this” 100 percent, Stauffer says.
Boy, I’m influenced. I’m influenced to conclude that this woman is a monster. Stauffer’s announcement cost her several sponsorships and ad partners, including Playtex, Danimals, Suave, and Big Lots, though that can’t make up for their paying someone like Myka to peddle their wares in the first place. And it looks like this “influencer” will maintain enough other companies among her clients to keep those more perfect children above in designer clothes, because giving her four-year old son away hasn’t seemed to significantly reduce the number of followers willing to be influenced.
Online influencers are symptoms of a sick society that is fast losing any semblance of ethical values. Incredibly, Myka Stauffer has managed to disgraces to this already disreputable group.