Comment Of The Day: “From The ‘When Ethics Alarms Are Devoured By Hysteria And Partisan Hate’ Files: Jezebel Readers React To The JetBlue Harassment Of Ivanka Trump”

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Happy Holidays!

There will be at least two Comments of the Day posted today, and this is the most recent, but I felt that getting this one up was particularly urgent.

Here is Spartan’s Comment of the Day on the post, From The “When Ethics Alarms Are Devoured By Hysteria And Partisan Hate” Files: Jezebel Readers React To The JetBlue Harassment Of Ivanka Trump.

I think everyone needs to call a time-out. Emotions are running high, as is evidenced by “Angry Steve-O-In-NJ’s” appearance the other day. Right now, I am giving everyone a pass (be they left or right) on angry, emotional, or hurtful outbursts. We’ve gone through a crazy election cycle, have had a rough year generally (just about every important or talented person has died), we are living in uncertain times, and we’re now in the midst of the holiday season — and holidays can be rough for people in the best of situations.

This might sound like crunchy-granola-liberal-touchy-feely-mumbo-jumbo, but I am trying to respond to all family and friends with love and understanding right now. And it is working. First of all, I feel better and it is making me a happier person. So right there, I can count it as a win. Second, they (or at least some of them) feel better. No good comes from fighting with family, friends, or random people in airports. Listen to what other people have to say and if they espouse different beliefs, don’t challenge or ridicule them, people can have civil discussions without them becoming contests of wits. And call out (gently) anyone who is espousing hateful rhetoric. It immediately dials down the emotions — which is a good thing.

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4 responses to “Comment Of The Day: “From The ‘When Ethics Alarms Are Devoured By Hysteria And Partisan Hate’ Files: Jezebel Readers React To The JetBlue Harassment Of Ivanka Trump”

  1. Pennagain

    Good words, Beth. Posted it for our current total of 107 usually level-headed crisis line volunteers. They know this for dealing with callers and online, but given the mumbling I’ve heard in the call room kitchen lately, I thought it would be useful off-shift as well. Thanks for helping out.

  2. Sounds like good enough advice that I’m willing to try and make it my default setting at least until the day after New Years. We’ll have to see after that.

  3. Paul Compton

    Gee, wouldn’t it be great if we could live like this ALL the time! 🙂

  4. zoebrain

    I’ve lost 4 FB friends since the election as the direct result of it, and the atmosphere it has created. What was once unacceptable, beyond the pale, has now become increasingly fashionable in many circles. It’s not that the viciousness is new, it’s that it’s out in the open and being acted on. It has become acceptable rather than suppressed.

    Right now, I am giving everyone a pass (be they left or right) on angry, emotional, or hurtful outbursts.

    I haven’t I’m afraid. The answer to malice is to try to be increasingly kind and supportive, not to rage in fury at injustice. That rage will consume you. It’s not those whose views I oppose that concern me, it’s the growing degree of anger in those I agree with, at the results starting to come in.

    We must also try to retain a sense of proportion. I see people being de-friended and blocked on FB, and it’s seen as being of earth-shattering importance.

    By “lost” I mean dead. 1 murder, 2 suicides, one denial of medical treatment. All trans women. Nothing that wasn’t happening before – see http://www.ustranssurvey.org/report , nothing new in kind, just greatly accelerated and amplified.

    Usually there’d be two such incidents in a year. Four in a month does not bode well, all I can hope for is that it’s an uncharacteristic spike. The escalating malice though means it’s a hope, not an expectation.

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