Comment Of The Day: “If You Present Me With Appeals Like This, You Will NEVER Have My Support”

I’m grateful to JP for making the connection between the insulting, shaming marketing ploys I wrote about in the post and the similar techniques I see on Facebook. Not all of them involve virtue-signaling, as in the “Share this appeal for X charity and prove you care, or we’ll know you’re a cheap unfeeling bastard.” Just as bad are the “prove you’re really my friend by writing a sentence about where we met, because I’m going to unfriend everyone who doesn’t” posts. I’m not your validation monkey. Grow up.

A pretty good summary of obnoxious Facebook posts is this article, which observes,

Annoying statuses typically reek of one or more of these five motivations:

1) Image Crafting. The author wants to affect the way people think of her.

2) Narcissism. The author’s thoughts, opinions, and life philosophies matter. The author and the author’s life are interesting in and of themselves.

3) Attention Craving.
The author wants attention.

4) Jealousy Inducing.
The author wants to make people jealous of him or his life.

5) Loneliness. The author is feeling lonely and wants Facebook to make it better.

Notably absent from the piece is the obnoxious conduct my Facebook friends are addicted to: searching for and posting every anti-Trump news item or opinion piece they can find day after day.

Here is JP’s Comment of the Day on the post, “If You Present Me With Appeals Like This, You Will NEVER Have My Support”:

For a while now I have noticed that there is a trend (especially among evangelicals) to share religious or faith-based content on Facebook that state something like: “I bet this won’t even get one share,” or “Share if you like Jesus, skip if you want Satan to win.”  As a Christian and a minister, 100% of the time I will not share it or like it at all. That does not make me a bad or callous person. As a human, I am emphatic and sympathetic about the plight of the sad kid in a third world country  shown on the post. As a Christian, not only do I not want Satan to win, I know he has already lost. So what’s the problem? Why won’t I share?

Well, before I answer that, I want to back up here.

Why do people share things on Facebook? A survey done by the Fractl marketing agency said 48% of posts were done because others will find them interesting.  52% focused on things the posters were thinking or feeling. Only 11% of posts are intended to educate others (and we all know how well that is going). While it wasn’t mentioned in the survey, it was clear that 100% of posts were about the people themselves posting them. Therefore everything being stated by the person  related to the person in some way. I don’t think that is a bad thing, in fact, I’m pretty sure that is Facebook’s sole purpose. So when a person shares that picture, in some way they are saying they themselves are Christian, or “hey this is an issue I care about!” However, I find this  highly problematic.

The first way relates to the Blaze offer. One of the reasons this marketing campaign is so successful is because people are gullible, weak-minded, or proud. You challenge them on an issue that attacks them in someway, and they feel like they have to respond. It reminds me Marty McFly’s self-destructive flaw  in the “Back to the Future ” movies. He couldn’t back down when someone called him “chicken.” It was Doc who had to tell Marty that if he didn’t learn to walk away, he was going to suffer the consequences. The second movie shows us the future where Marty’s  life will be ruined after he gets in a car accident by accepting a drag race challenge after being called a chicken. This fate is erased in the third film after he finally learns to resist the trigger.

While I doubt any of our sharing or agreeing will have any lasting consequences (other than a flooded email box), I wonder if this pattern builds up to something bigger — (I know: slippery slope!).

These posts are attacks on my character. I don’t want people to think I’m a lemming to the main stream media. I don’t want people to think I’m not empathetic or sympathetic to the kid’s plight. I don’t want people to think I’m not a Christian. So part of me wants to share that post, or click on that link. but when I do, they get exactly what they want, and not because they care about me.

The second reason I think it’s problematic is it can actually be harmful to use these devices. In Jack’s example they are trying to get you buy their content. However, like the Facebook post, they are doing it through virtue-signaling. Philosophers Justin Tosi and Brandon Warmke believe virtue-signaling (they call it moral grandstanding) perverts the function of public moral discourse. They argue:

“Public moral talk aims to get others to see a moral problem they hadn’t noticed before, and/or to do something about it. But, instead, virtue-signalers display themselves, taking the focus away from the moral problem. Since we often spot virtue signalling for what it is, the effect is to cause cynicism in the audience, rather than to induce them to think the signaler is so great. As a result, virtue signaling ‘cheapens’ moral discourse.”

While they offer no evidence to back up their claims, I believe they are correct. At the very least, Jack’s post is a perfect example of it. In 2014 when 276 girls were kidnapped by the terrorist group Boko Haram,  there was a virtue-signaling campaign called “Bring back our girls,”  with Michelle Obama taking a prominent role. Did Michelle Obama holding up a sign #bringbackourgirls actually bring back any of the girls? No it didn’t. She was married to the most powerful man in the world at that time. Did he do anything about it? A month after it happened President Obama sent 80 military personal to Nigeria, but they didn’t  stay long. As of two years later, 219 of the 276 girls were still missing.

Yana Galang (the mother of one of the missing girls) is quoted as saying the online outrage hasn’t helped. In 2016 Congresswoman Wilson was trying to use the campaign slogan to raise funding to find these girls, and was largely unsuccessful.

So  the reason I don’t post is I believe it is counter-productive. It cheapens the subject matter and creates lazy thinking. If as a Christian I roll my eyes at the Jesus post, I can only imagine what non-Christians are thinking.

13 thoughts on “Comment Of The Day: “If You Present Me With Appeals Like This, You Will NEVER Have My Support”

  1. I guess some people overestimated Boko Haram’s Facebook-ness. But who knows, maybe they do have a minister of social media.

    I too thought those ads by Michelle Obama were beyond feckless and smarmy. Although “We’ll be nice to you so you’ll be nice to us, right?” was the mantra of the John Kerry State Department. Sheesh.

    • The idea that Boko Haram could be shamed into doing the right thing was elementary school reasoning. If there was a concern for the opinion of others there wouldn’t have been an abduction. My guess would be the hashtag use would become a “drinking game”.

  2. I dumped Facebook about a year ago and never looked back.

    It is however ashame that I no longer have a means to communicate with people I’ve met around the world. And, it was a good place to put ideas to paper so to speak with the opporrunity to get feedback from others.

    I never shared other people’s stuff nor did I ask others to share my thoughts and ideas. I don’t know if they did but I did not care. My musings were my own reflection. If others found them interesting that’s just bonus utility.

    I never cared much for the Like button. It always seemed like having on your page was nothing more than fishing for compliments. If a dislike button was included I might be more amenable to the idea of such feedback. However, if you like or dislike something you need to do more than just push a button and be done with it. If you can’t or won’t explain why or provide a different perspective , why should I care about how you feel about what I wrote.

    The more I see that Facebook has become a defacto censor of information that it alone deems “harmful” the better I feel about my decision to drop Facebook and other social media services from my digital life.

    What was social media called before computers ? Gossip.

    • Though I rarely use it for myself, I find it to be a very useful tool for my job. Therefore I am on it a few times a day.

      • I can see how, as a minister, you would probably feel compelled to have at least a modest Facebook presence. On the other hand, your profession would make it a minefield for you. Limited engagement is probably very wise.

  3. Thanks for the accolades Jack I appriciate it.

    Just a minor point of clarifiaction:

    “While I doubt any of our sharing or agreeing will have any lasting consequences (other than a flooded email box), I wonder if this pattern builds up to something bigger —a slippery slope.”

    I was acknowledging that what I was worried about was the slippery slope and that is typically a logical fallacy. I’m not a fan of this argument and try to avoid it. It was a way to address my bias with the particular point. That is why I put it in brackets.

  4. I make it a practice on Facebook to never share anyone’s status, memes or copy/paste anything. I particularly dislike the ones that begin with, “Let’s see who my friends really are….” or “I know not all of my friends will share this…”.

    And I’ve never felt disloyal to Jesus just because I didn’t Like his Fan Page.

  5. Virtual Signal Confession: Here sits one who never went on any kind of “social media.”

    I did, however, once get side-swiped by a Google-bus.

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