Comment Of The Day: On The State of Feminism (Open Forum, 11/25/22)

Another Comment of the Day from CD-VAPatriot, who has to cope with the increasingly annoying glitch at WordPress that cases in to spam certain commenters’ posts for no apparent reason.


I think it all depends on one’s definition of “feminism.” I used to think the term simply meant that women were overall equal to men in terms of career opportunities, earning potential, deciding whether or not they wanted to get married and/or have kids, etc.. These days it seems that a lot of women I know feel that being a feminist means that “women are the SAME as men”. Well, forgive me for being a traitor to my gender (which yes I have been called) but I believe that there ARE significant differences between the sexes. Oh, and I’m also apparently a traitor and a woman-hater for being pro-life. (Who knew?)

As the female half of a boring old married, heterosexual couple who has been trying to get pregnant for over a decade, I really don’t think my hubby and I fit the “norm” anymore. We’ve noticed that in just the last decade, our friends and the couples we’ve met during that time have significantly changed their overall outlook quite a bit. Fewer couples are getting married: “who, like, needs a stupid piece of paper or like, some rando God to decide if our love is like, legit?”

There are several who used to be just plain old straight or gay but are now queer, non-binary, transgender, and/or enjoying throuples or orgies. (Am I the only one who remembers a time- not too long ago-when people were desperate to NOT be labeled? Now people label themselves and each other like it’s the single most important task on Earth!)

There are self-proclaimed feminists who want to be so independent that they legitimately can’t coexist in a healthy partnership. They’re constantly proving that they can pay their own way, that they don’t need anyone (especially a MAN!) to be fulfilled, that really, the human race would be better off if said men didn’t exist at all. These women are always SO MUCH FUN to be around!

On the other hand, there are women who call themselves feminists who somehow don’t believe they should have to contribute anything at all, especially not financially…just sit back & reap the rewards simply for being a woman, especially an attractive one.

We have a shameless relative who shall remain nameless. Her gift to the world? Popping out babies left and  right for two obvious reasons: 1) She doesn’t have to work outside the home any longer (she got advanced degrees claiming such passion for her field but even when offered free childcare, she had zero interest in going back to work even part time), and 2) the more kids she and her hubby have, the more stuff both sets of grandparents give them. They haven’t had to budget for food, clothes, childcare, education, etc..

Recently, because their family is “just so big,” they simply had to buy a million dollar house to fit everyone! Now, even when they had no children and both worked full time, a house like that was well out of their price range, but they’ve found that if “it’s for the little ones”, Gram and  Gramps on both sides are quite happy to split the lion’s share of the mortgage between them so that the new parents can just focus on, well, whatever it is they focus on. While they’re busy working on a 4th kid (I mean, that pool for the new house isn’t gonna pay for itself!), their social media accounts are littered with “Abortion on Demand”, “Trust the Science”, and the BLM, LGBTQ, Transgender & Ukraine flags…all except an American one, of course….beause in their warped minds, this country sucks.

Our relative really does think that she’s entitled to everything I mentioned and more…simply because of her birthing abilities…and so it’s kind of galling when she calls herself a feminist. Please don’t get me wrong: being a stay at home wife and mom is noble, and a real job that’s a lot of hard work…but in her case, she doesn’t actually do much at all. She put all the kids in daycare, and she has grandparent coverage at the drop of a hat when she needs spa time or girls night out, or shopping, or going on vacation..

If you detect a note (or a neon billboard) of resentment/bitterness, you’re not wrong. It is true that we’d give so much for a child of our own, without needing or even wanting anything from anyone except a normal level of love and support offered to most new parents. It’s more just actual shame to see my own gender exploited like that, especially since the grandparents being taken advantage of in this situation are our loved ones as well.

So, to answer your question, I see declarations of feminism all over the place, but watching what amounts to grifting makes me feel as though women like my relative has set true feminism BACK several decades.

12 thoughts on “Comment Of The Day: On The State of Feminism (Open Forum, 11/25/22)

    • Another book recommendation: “The Case Against the Sexual Revolution,” by Louise Perry. Well researched and expertly written.

  1. You stated: Fewer couples are getting married: “who, like, needs a stupid piece of paper. I find that amusing, but correct. It seems these days only the queer community covets that “stupid” piece of paper. They have continually demonstrated for the right to get married and want that ‘stupid” piece of paper to legitimize it, thus validating their delusions. And the democrats that believe it will generate votes are rushing to comply by trying to codify same sex marriage.

    • Ed, all along I thought the gay marriage push was funded by the divorce bar. What follows gay marriage? Gay divorce! I’m pretty sure every gay or lesbian couple I know who got married is now divorced, some, in a very ugly way. Be careful what you wish for comes to mind. I will add, however, I know of one gay, long-standing, married couple, in Europe, that is headed by the most devoted spouse I could ever imagine.

  2. Such great content and so extremely well-written, CD. Again, thanks and great job. Your description of your un-named relative elicits a massive, “Oh the Huge Manatee!” So much irony. Congrats. (And I think I’ll give myself a COTD assist! The best I can hope for. Hah!)

    • Thanks, OB. I’ve been reading & admiring your comments for many years, so your compliment means a lot. (And I’m totally stealing your “Manatee”!) 😀

      • You’re welcome and thank you for the compliment, CD. Maybe Jack will use the “Oh, the huge manatee!” picture (is it a GIF?) again soon. Being Florida born and bred, I have a soft spot for manatees. Them and blimps and dirigibles as well, come to think of it. The Goodyear blimp (filled with helium, NOT hydrogen) wintered in Miami and would putter over our house at night blinking its electric, scrolling signage.

        • … Being Florida born and bred, I have a soft spot for manatees. Them and blimps and dirigibles as well, come to think of it…

          Blimps are dirigibles, just non-rigid ones unlike the rigid R-101 and the semi-rigid Italia. The term does not mean rigid, it means steerable (as opposed to those balloons that only drift).

  3. Paraphrasing, Dave Chappel, in one of his routines, started “The Dictionary definition of a feminist is “a Human being who supports equal rights of women politically, socially, and economically, I use to think a feminist was a short-haired dyke in overalls who couldn’t get laid. Now I have learned that I am a feminist.”

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