What is there left to say about this? According to the Tampa Bay Times, the sibling who placed the obituary (guess which one) claimed that all he was doing was memorializing his mother’s own opinion regarding her children. Whether this is true or not, his conduct in composing such a petty and inappropriate obituary can’t be defended. Such announcements are not to be warped into weapons of intra-family warfare, not is it ethical to put words in his dead mother’s mouth when she is not around to confirm or correct them. If Josie was like most mothers—mine, for example—what she would have wanted was for her children to reconcile their differences and love each other. I doubt that she actively sought her death to be used as means of increasing the acrimony, but even if she did, that is a goal no son should pursue in her name.
Petty, mean, selfish, vengeful, as blatant a Golden Rule violation as you are likely to find and a breach of trust to all concerned, the obituary composed by A.J. Anello (Whoops! Gave it away!) exploited a family tragedy to hurt his brother and sister at a time when they were already grieving, for no legitimate purpose other than to settle scores and be cruel.
I hope, for his sake, that Peter and Ninfa don’t have the opportunity to write his obituary, or that if they do, they show more respect and decency than their vicious brother.
And if A.J. doesn’t want them to have the opportunity to write his obit, he might want to watch his back from now on.
Thanks to Lianne Best for sending me this.