Susan Lucas is an human resources veteran who shares her abundant workplace wisdom on her blog, a truly excellent one, Evil HR Lady.
She has written an invaluable list she calls “Problems at Work? 10 Signs That It’s Not Them, It’s You.” It can be literally a life-saver for frustrated career failures, disheartened underlings, especially, perhaps, those encouraged by warped parents, teachers, mentors and peers to always avoid blame, accountability and responsibility by attributing it to prejudice, bias and personal animus.
Everyone Bullies You
It would be totally awesome if everyone were super nice all the time, but that isn’t reality. If you’re always the target of the bully, there are two possibilities.One is that you have some trait that bullies find super attractive. While this doesn’t make the bullying your fault, there is something you can do about it. Ask your friends for their suggestions and consider therapy to learn skills that will keep you from being so vulnerable.The other possibility is that you’re way too sensitive. Bosses are supposed to tell you what to do and correct your errors.
Everyone You Work With as Dumb as a Rock
It’s possible that you’re a genius, but that doesn’t mean other people are dumb. If no one seems to be able to understand what you are saying, it’s time to evaluate how you communicate. There’s a good chance that you’re not clear in your explanations and that you leave out critical pieces of information. Work to improve your communication skills and watch everyone else’s IQ rise.
You’re Always the Victim
Much like with bullying, being the victim of illegal discrimination is possible. It does happen. But, it doesn’t happen all the time.If you’re constantly overlooked for promotion because of your race or gender or something else like that, chances are you’re using that as an excuse for something you’re lacking.Take a deep look at your skills, your attitude, and your behaviors at work. There is something you’re lacking, and you need to improve it. Do that, and you’ll find that suddenly people aren’t discriminating against you.
The rest is just as wise. I bet you know someone who needs to see this and believe it. I know several.