Christmas Questions For A Thoroughly Confused Culture

In “A Christmas Kiss,” the 2011 Hallmark-style Christmas movie (that premiered on the Ion channel, but really would have been right at home on the Hallmark channel, or for that matter, the Crap Channel), Wendy Walton is an aspiring interior designer. One night, while preparing to go out with her roommates in glitter makeup,  she encounters an impossibly handsome, formally-dressed stranger in the elevator. When the elevator stalls and seems unstable, Wendy is thrown into the stranger’s arms….or perhaps grabs him for support, or in fear.  The elevator starts moving again, and he impulsively embraces her and gives  her a passionate, romantic kiss.  They part without her learning his name, and Wendy breathlessly tells her roommates about her magical encounter with the handsome stranger.

2018 questions:

1 Was the kiss sexual assault? Wendy did not consent to it.

2. Did her gabbing him when the elevator shuddered constitute sexual assault?

3. Did that act provide sufficient license for him to initiate the kiss without it being labeled assault?

4. She clearly enjoyed the spontaneous kiss. Does she have the right to do that, or does her after-the-fact approval simply encourage sexual assault?

5. Is it sexual assault whether she likes the kiss or not?

6. If she decides years or decades later that even though she liked the kiss in the moment, now that she is “woke” and a feminist she regards the kiss as sexual assault, would it be fair for her to accuse the stranger, now a Senator, candidate for President or SCOTUS nominee, of assaulting her?

7. If not, why not?

8. If the man were not a stranger but a co-worker, would that make the kiss more or less likely to be sexual assault? What if they had dated in the past? What if he had asked her out a while, and she had turned him down? Is she obligated to regard the kiss as sexual assault then? What if she likes it?

9. What if the romantic, beautiful stranger was a woman?

10. What if the romantic stranger wasn’t impossibly gorgeous? Are men or women who aren’t gorgeous allowed to attempt a spontaneous kiss?

11. Do women want such moments in their life, but only under perfect circumstances?

12. If they don’t, why is this film still popular? Why isn’t watching and enjoying this movie the same as cheering for rape?

13. If the handsome stranger misreads the moment—or isn’t handsome enough—or is a little too old, or short—or isn’t a great kisser–is it sufficient for him to apologize and claim that he misread the “signals”?

14. If the woman accepts his apology, can she still come out a decade later and say he assaulted her?

 

32 thoughts on “Christmas Questions For A Thoroughly Confused Culture

  1. Escapist fantasies do not reflect reality.

    Never, try anything with a stranger because you saw it in some romance-themed escapist fantasy or any other kind for that matter. Do not attempt to become a pirate, an 18’th century highland warrior, the black knight, the green knight or a half-human half beast living in a castle with talking candlesticks.

    Do not do this for other movies either. Do not pick up a sword and try to avenge the death of a loved one. Do not try to upset Cardinal Richelieu’s plans outside the accepted political process, do not beat-up your spouse’s brother over the matter of a dowry, not even if you married Maureen O’Hara. Do not punch rude strangers. Do not steal cattle. Do not attack a first-rate with a sloop and attempt to take it as a prize. Do not try to cleverly outsmart trickster gods.

    Movies present unrealistic and socially unacceptable behaviors for both entertainment value and as a shortcut to move plot along in a time-limited format.

    Do not try this at home, these are paid professionals in a controlled setting, not an instruction manual.

      • Spontaneous kisses are at best dicy, at worst criminal.

        1. Probably unwanted sexual touching if Wendy didn’t want it.
        2. Probably not, it’s the physical equivalent of an excited utterance.
        3. Maybe – she could have grabbed something else to avoid falling.
        4. Everyone has the right to enjoy or not enjoy something without it becoming a policy/gender-politics issue.
        5. Pretty darn close if not there. Grabbing and kissing a stranger?
        6. No, that’s just bringing up a stale act to stab someone in the back.
        7. See #7.
        8. If she doesn’t like it, a co-worker or any of those other things would be right in the poo.
        9. She’d have the same right to push away a same-sex advance as I would and tell the guy who tried for me “I don’t roll like that.”
        10. If they are smart they won’t. Even those who have the looks are taking an awfully big risk.
        11. Depends on the woman.
        12. The same reason stuff like While You Were Sleeping and The Notebook is popular.
        13. Probably not, but it’s all he can do after the fact.
        14. Not if she’s mature. Accept the apology and move on.

        Sorry, but kissing is something you don’t talk about, analyze, or overthink. It’s something you just do or don’t do, and if your heart (or lower) says yes but your brain says no, go with the organ that thinks. If you make the wrong choice, at best it’s going to be awkward, at worst criminal. That goes double for mouth-on kissing (something I consider dangerously special and NEVER initiate, the lady must make the first move there).

        Have to agree with valky, though, at least in part, movies are not like real life, especially when it comes to relationships.

      • Val cannot answer the questions: her progressive creds are on the line. (Her best bet would have been to ignore the post) See, she know that anything and everything that is written online can be brought up at a later date to attack anyone, should the wind change and her opinions suddenly become ‘unwoke’ as progressives change their narrative based upon literal whim. Best not to comment when you might lose membership in the elite after the revolution! /sn

        But there is a further conundrum. If she answers with progressive zeal, she gets taken apart here on EA (progressive answers to these questions are guaranteed to be unethical) AND she runs the risk of saying something that could, years from now, be taken out of context to ‘other’ here with fellow travelers who need a handy scalp.

        If she answers ethically, of course, her scalp is all but hanging upon a fellow traveler’s lodge pole upon demand.

        Like I said, she should have never answered at all.

        Jack, the only ethical course is for you, as King of this Domain, Ruler of Commentary both High and Low, and Suzerain of the Ethical, to remove her post and all answers thereunto (including this one) to save our progressive friend from herself and future attack.

      • Is the basis of the questions faulty? We are watching actors following a script both participants are already familiar with, thus issues of consent had been addressed at the time they accepted their defined roles.

        if the premise is wrong, then this movie represents an unrealistic sexual encounter–why isn’t it relegated to pay-per-view pornography or age restricted so it doesn’t confuse young impressionable culture? Women react to situational depictions (romance novels) very much similar to the way men react to visual depictions (skin mags). This is porn, performed by attractive paid actors. It’s just not as obvious in the format made for feminine consumption.

        • I was going to object to your characterization of this as ‘porn’ but when i looked up the definition.

          From the English Oxford Dictionary: “Printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate sexual excitement.”
          https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/pornography

          I think the video clip (and movie) might just fit the term, given that women react to emotional and situational stimulus (“romance”) and are aroused by such. This creates an analogous situation to a male watching what we traditionally refer to as porn.

          ‘Hallmark movies are female porn’ therefore cannot be dismissed out of hand.

          What an uncomfortable concept, in our society!

          • I’ve thought most of the romance book market has fit that definition for decades, since the peak days of Joanna Lindsey. Especially as post millenium has cranked up the smut level and many books end up depicting kinky scenes that used to be just in porn. The industry is drifting towards a smut rating system so readers can find the flavor they want.

  2. 1 Was the kiss sexual assault? Wendy did not consent to it.
    Of course it was sexual assault so was sleeping beauty! But in romantic fantasies he gets a pass.

    2. Did her gabbing him when the elevator shuddered constitute sexual assault?depends on If he was rescuing her from a fall and he apologized for the impulsive act.

    3. Did that act provide sufficient license for him to initiate the kiss without it being labeled assault? Nope , he has to ask for consent.

    4. She clearly enjoyed the spontaneous kiss. Does she have the right to do that, or does her after-the-fact approval simply encourage sexual assault?
    Poor confused girl is setting up his defence at future rape trail.
    5. Is it sexual assault whether she likes the kiss or not?
    Of course she should never go anywhere without a lawyer a priest and her mother.
    6. If she decides years or decades later that even though she liked the kiss in the moment, now that she is “woke” and a feminist she regards the kiss as sexual assault, would it be fair for her to accuse the stranger, now a Senator, candidate for President or SCOTUS nominee, of assaulting her?
    Of course, we all know the rules Jack, and I thank God I am gay, so I can mostly avoid these silly entanglements.
    7. If not, why not?

    8. If the man were not a stranger but a co-worker, would that make the kiss more or less likely to be sexual assault? What if they had dated in the past? What if he had asked her out a while, and she had turned him down? Is she obligated to regard the kiss as sexual assault then? What if she likes it?
    He is a straight white man under any of these circumstances he is figurerlivly screwed!
    9. What if the romantic, beautiful stranger was a woman?
    Now that it is a lesbian it can not possibly be wrong!
    10. What if the romantic stranger wasn’t impossibly gorgeous? Are men or women who aren’t gorgeous allowed to attempt a spontaneous kiss?
    Of course not any gorgeous man can kiss me! It happened once confused the hell out of me. As for less then gorgeous, I just do not know.
    11. Do women want such moments in their life, but only under perfect circumstances? Depends on woman or to be fair man.

    12. If they don’t, why is this film still popular? Why isn’t watching and enjoying this movie the same as cheering for rape?
    See all most all fairy tales and romances, KISS me Kate, anyone?
    13. If the handsome stranger misreads the moment—or isn’t handsome enough—or is a little too old, or short—or isn’t a great kisser–is it sufficient for him to apologize and claim that he misread the “signals”? No he must be crushed and made to grovel. No of those things deserve happily ever after. Only the pretty do!

    14. If the woman accepts his apology, can she still come out a decade later and say he assaulted her? Of course face it Jack, men are straight men are doomed. Great time to be gay though! Only now that I am past 50 I am to old for romance, in gay culture too!

  3. I’m actually surprised it’s NOT a Hallmark movie, and it seems to have gathered a lot of views on Netflix and we don’t even have that cable in our lineup. …But for the record, I abhor the Hallmark movies as a group because they are rife with behaviors that would not fly in the real world and encourage people to pretend that they are okay. (Not talking about just Christmas kissing but everything from family to jobs to romance) People like to mock Harlequin books have more time for setup. As a group, these movies excuse any kind of skeezy behavior is okay if you get a spouse out of it. But if you think skeezy is okay for you to do, them it’s also okay for someone to take away the girl or guy the same way…

    I doubt many ‘me too’ members would turn down a chance to be the lead in a RL story like this, because I believe the hope for true love trumps any frisson of wariness. Twenty years later divorced and jaded will shout even more.

    I think your looong list of questions are a bunch of variants on the core idea that the definition of sexual assault is far too broad without any time limit or leeway for honest mistakes. It’s way too late to answer them all individually and many depend on context which is also important. A social buss when caught under the mistletoe should not be a big deal. If someone doesn’t want to or didn’t have time to object, the kissee desreves to get a primpt and sincere apology and leave it alone from there as long as no similar action repeats. (no call back after a year+, I don’t care if the guy is up to become the next dali lama) The kisser needs to move on and find someone interested without becoming a jerk. Inquiring minds want to know why you put yourself through a movie this stupid? There is no ‘me too’ in Halmark movies.

    • But for the record, I abhor the Hallmark movies as a group because they are rife with behaviors that would not fly in the real world and encourage people to pretend that they are okay.

      Also for the record, my radically un-woke wife loves the Hallmark movies, the ION movies, the Lifetime movies… all of them. On the plus side, I get to game or write on blogs while she’s busy loving them.

      I guess that’s fair.

  4. Answers:

    1 You’d have to think so, based on what we’ve seen.

    2 No, women get the benefit of the doubt on an iffy contact that may have been driven by fright or external, non-sexual stimulus.

    3 No, I don’t think so. In my 2018 view, not even close.

    4 Tough question. I’m going to say that enjoying something is an involuntary response, so yes, she has the right to do it. But it was unethical for her to relate it approvingly to her roommate. That’s spiking the football.

    5 Based on today’s standards, I’d have to say yes. She may forgive it, but it is sexual assault.

    6 Based on the Kavanaugh debacle, I’d have to say that even though it isn’t fair, it would be approvingly allowed and seriously investigate, perhaps even by the Senate Judiciary Committee if some nexus to the federal courts could be found or imagined.

    7 N/A

    8 If the man were a co-worker, it would be both sexual assault and possibly sexual harassment, depending on whether she could make the case for a hostile work environment. If they had dated in the past, yes, it’s an assault — remember, consent is required for every touch of an arguably sexual nature.

    If she had turned him down, I think we have to escalate the charge to attempted rape. If she likes it, I think she has to do 20 Hail Marys, 15 Our Fathers, and write “I’m woke and I hate myself for liking it” 500 times in cursive.

    9 Another tough question. Is a gay sexual assault even possible? It may be the equivalent of the myth of black racism. I’m not sufficiently woke to answer.

    10 Oh, then it’s attempted rape for sure.

    11 You’ll have to ask a woman. I’m unqualified to answer that question due to the presence of a Y chromosome. And yes, that sentence just previous to this is more proof that I’m not woke enough to answer anyway.

    12 Another good question. I suppose one can infer from it’s popularity that women do harbor secret desires for handsome men to give them a zipless kiss. For asking that question, you have to write “I’m not woke enough to run an ethics blog” 100 times, but you can use block letters.

    13 No. Consent was not given, the end.

    14 It depends. If he is about to assume an important position in popular culture or government, and if she has a legitimate fear that the #MeToo movement needs proper exposition of his behavior, the apology becomes an ethical nullity and she may use the event to expose his retrograde lack of wokeness and Neanderthal sexual ethics.

  5. 1. Who says she didn’t consent? She says it doesn’t feel right, but her body language seems to say she changed her mind in an instant. Perhaps the actual movie, rather than this compressed clip, would make that more clear. Is body language sufficient for consent? Or, is a written, notarized, lawyerly release needed?
    2. Nope. Normal human reaction, not really voluntary.
    3. Nope. Not that act. The apparent mutual attraction immediately afterward is significant.
    4. I really don’t think it was “after-the-fact approval” so I also don’t think her enjoyment encourages sexual assault.
    5. Since liking the kiss comes after the act, it is not relevant to whether or not it was sexual assault.
    6. No, such an accusation would not be fair.
    7. Given my reading of that very brief clip, she would be making the accusation dishonestly.
    8-14. I need to be excused from class now. My brain was all used up on # 1-7.
    Okay, I’m back.
    8. All irrelevant, given the mutual attraction I see in that very brief clip.
    9. Also irrelevant.
    10. Mutual attraction is the key for me, not the perceived gorgeousness.
    11. I’m an elderly white male. How in the hell would I know what women want?
    12. No idea why the film is popular (and I’ll take your word for its being popular). It’s not the same because it’s not rape, and as I see it, it’s not assault either.
    13. Disregarding handsomeness, age, kissing ability – if in fact he misread the body language, he should recognize that (or be told) immediately and apologize profusely. And, yes, that should be sufficient.
    14. Of course she can make the accusation a decade later, but she should not. If she accepted the apology sincerely, she should live with that acceptance.

  6. 1 Was the kiss sexual assault? Wendy did not consent to it.

    The girl completely, obviously, unquestionably consented to the kiss because she initiated it just as much and equal to that of her kiss-partner. That is clearly revealed when you watch the scene.

    There is no doubt about this.

    2. Did her gabbing him when the elevator shuddered constitute sexual assault?

    Do you want it to be that? Because if you do we can make that happen. What do you want it to be? Everything depends on how you *feel*. There is no objective reality or truth, and the standard for such is being dissolved. Everything depends on the *viewer* and what the viewer wants and needs in a given moment, or years and years after.

    Answers to the other questions depend integrally on answers to these two.

    Bonus Comment:

    8. If the man were not a stranger but a co-worker, would that make the kiss more or less likely to be sexual assault? What if they had dated in the past? What if he had asked her out a while, and she had turned him down? Is she obligated to regard the kiss as sexual assault then? What if she likes it?

    My theory is that she is working with a Christian Gay Conversion Therapy Group. The guy is (obviously) as gay as they come. It is all part of a set-up to get him to channel his libido in the proper way, for the sake of God & Country.

    If you research this ION Channel, you will find it has links to some of the most open and vile Right Wing think tanks and people like the Koch Brothers. Vice-president Pence watches it religiously. It all stems out of Focus on the Family-like organization that has headquarters inside of a mountain in an undisclosed location . . .

  7. Here are my answers to the 2018 questions as I believe a true Social Justice Warrior would answer them:

    1. Was the kiss sexual assault? Wendy did not consent to it.

    Yes, of course it was sexual assault.

    2. Did her gabbing him when the elevator shuddered constitute sexual assault?

    Of course not, she’s the woman. You’re only at question number two and you’re already blaming the victim? Misogynist?

    3. Did that act provide sufficient license for him to initiate the kiss without it being labeled assault?

    No! Men don’t have the right to interrupt any such acts from a woman as a license for such an obvious sexual assault. Women are not a play toy for Men!

    4. She clearly enjoyed the spontaneous kiss. Does she have the right to do that, or does her after-the-fact approval simply encourage sexual assault?

    That’s just like a man; “she enjoyed it”; now you’re talking like a true misogynist! Of course she didn’t enjoy it, no woman enjoys such violent encounters with men. She was clearly psychologically confused after the violent sexual assault.

    5. Is it sexual assault whether she likes the kiss or not?

    You’re really beginning to piss me off! It IS sexual assault! She didn’t like it! Implying that she like it is a failure of society to properly put misogynist men like YOU in their place.

    6. If she decides years or decades later that even though she liked the kiss in the moment, now that she is “woke” and a feminist she regards the kiss as sexual assault, would it be fair for her to accuse the stranger, now a Senator, candidate for President or SCOTUS nominee, of assaulting her?

    Get real! It WAS sexual assault! There should be no statute of limitations on rape, destroy his life, throw him in jail, throw away the key.

    7. If not, why not?

    Pointless question from a misogynist. Have you stopped beating your wife?

    8. If the man were not a stranger but a co-worker, would that make the kiss more or less likely to be sexual assault? What if they had dated in the past? What if he had asked her out a while, and she had turned him down? Is she obligated to regard the kiss as sexual assault then? What if she likes it?

    Dammit, she didn’t like it! It was a violent encounter with a rapist, he raped her and he should be thrown in jail! She’ll be suffering from PTSD for the rest of her life and society will condone that man’s actions and he’ll walk free to rape again? This is a travesty of justice!

    9. What if the romantic, beautiful stranger was a woman?

    So now you’re an anti-gay bigot too? Good God man, get it through your thick skull, he RAPED her and needs to be in jail to protect other women. Stupid fucking man!

    10. What if the romantic stranger wasn’t impossibly gorgeous? Are men or women who aren’t gorgeous allowed to attempt a spontaneous kiss?

    Now you’re just trying to confuse the issue. Stick to the facts! The man raped the young lady and it’s unknown how many other young ladies and children he’s raped and all you want to do is claim that if he’s cute he’s ALLOWED to rape? What the hell is wrong with you?!

    11. Do women want such moments in their life, but only under perfect circumstances?

    How many times do we have to tell you, she was raped and the misogynist justice system always believes the man! Women don’t want to be raped! Who is there to protect the woman victims? God what an idiot!

    12. If they don’t, why is this film still popular? Why isn’t watching and enjoying this movie the same as cheering for rape?

    That film is evidence of a completely corrupted society that condones and encourages raping of women. The producers, director, author, and all the actors should be prosecuted for indoctrinating the population into thinking that rape is okay! This kind of violent behavior should never be allowed to be seen by the public. BOYCOTT THE MOVIE STUDIO UNTIL THE RAPIST CEO IS FIRED!

    13. If the handsome stranger misreads the moment—or isn’t handsome enough—or is a little too old, or short—or isn’t a great kisser–is it sufficient for him to apologize and claim that he misread the “signals”?

    Oh just stop it, we all know that women aren’t as narrow minded as men and men are not allowed to interrupt anything a woman does! “Misread”, are you fucking serious; that’s an argument that unethical lawyers are constantly using in bigoted misogynist kangaroo courts to keep a rapists out of prison. The justice system is anti-woman! All men are evil! Any man that’s been accused of sexual assault or rape should have their penis removed!

    14. If the woman accepts his apology, can she still come out a decade later and say he assaulted her?

    You just crossed the line! No women would ever accept an apology from the man who raped her unless that woman has been intimidated into doing so. Even if this did happen, it doesn’t change the fact that he violent raped her and belongs in the electric chair!

    Okay enough of that nonsense, now back to the new reality of our social justice warrior infected society.

    The sexual revolution is over. Anything a male did during those sexually promiscuous years is now considered assault and/or rape. The female is always the victim and should always be believed.

    Here’s what social justice warriors are leading our society towards; if there isn’t a written, signed and notarized contract ahead of time allowing specified physical contact of a woman, the man is guilty no matter how much time has passed. Even if the contracts are followed explicitly, that won’t protect the male individuals if the perception of the female happens to change after-the-fact. The male is always wrong when it comes to anything related to sexual contact.

    The absurdity of the depth of the social justice warrior cult will eventually lead to this; if a curious boy child says to a curious girl child, “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”, that will be prosecutable as attempted rape in the social justice warriors’ court of public opinion at any time in the life of that male, it’s not relevant if they didn’t show each other their private parts to each other.

    “Snips and snails, and puppy dogs tails, That’s what little boys are made of. Sugar and spice and all things nice, That’s what little girls are made of.”

    This has great potential to reduce the surplus population.

    /snark/

  8. Here’s lookin’ at you, kid.

    You must remember this
    A kiss is still a kiss
    A sigh is just a sigh
    The fundamental things apply
    As time goes by

  9. 1 Was the kiss sexual assault? Depends on the kisser’s intent and the kissed one’s perception of the kiss. I would say that it probably could be construed as assault but her consent, at the moment of the kiss, is a defense.

    2. Did her gabbing him when the elevator shuddered constitute sexual assault? No. It was not motivated by sexual or inappropriate intent but was the result of an immediate action to prevent herself from falling.

    3. Did that act provide sufficient license for him to initiate the kiss without it being labeled assault? No. See No. 1.

    4. She clearly enjoyed the spontaneous kiss. Does she have the right to do that, or does her after-the-fact approval simply encourage sexual assault? Yes, she absolutely has the right to enjoy a spontaneous smooch. No, the after-the-fact consent does not, under any circumstances, encourage sexual assault.

    5. Is it sexual assault whether she likes the kiss or not? No. It is determined at the time whether she consented to the kiss.

    6. If she decides years or decades later that even though she liked the kiss in the moment, now that she is “woke” and a feminist she regards the kiss as sexual assault, would it be fair for her to accuse the stranger, now a Senator, candidate for President or SCOTUS nominee, of assaulting her? No. Wrong. She would be unethical to accuse him years later of such activity. See, Dr. Ford.

    7. If not, why not? Passage of time, lack of evidence and corroborating witnesses (assuming there is no video), render it an indefensible accusation.

    8. If the man were not a stranger but a co-worker, would that make the kiss more or less likely to be sexual assault? What if they had dated in the past? What if he had asked her out a while, and she had turned him down? Is she obligated to regard the kiss as sexual assault then? What if she likes it? Co-workers are a different animal all together. The question would rest on positions of power and influence. Was she the boss? Was he the boss?

    9. What if the romantic, beautiful stranger was a woman? No difference in any analysis, though HBO probably has a whole bunch of late movies based on that but I wouldn’t know about any of that . . . .

    10. What if the romantic stranger wasn’t impossibly gorgeous? Are men or women who aren’t gorgeous allowed to attempt a spontaneous kiss? No difference in my analysis whether he or she were fetching or revolting.

    11. Do women want such moments in their life, but only under perfect circumstances? Not sure. My guess would be no.

    12. If they don’t, why is this film still popular? Why isn’t watching and enjoying this movie the same as cheering for rape? Why? Because movies are escapist activities where we get to suspend our belief or disbelief. They are primarily for entertainment value. How many of those fast car/drifting movies are there? All of them are based on irresponsible behavior but fun.

    13. If the handsome stranger misreads the moment—or isn’t handsome enough—or is a little too old, or short—or isn’t a great kisser–is it sufficient for him to apologize and claim that he misread the “signals”? Probably. If so, a simple apology should be sufficient but her response would probably include a good good whacking with a purse a la “Laugh In.”

    14. If the woman accepts his apology, can she still come out a decade later and say he assaulted her? No. Waiver is a complete defense.

  10. It took me a while to find the movie and watch the elevator scene. The elevator scene in the movie differs from the more fast-paced fragments of the trailer.

    In the movie the kiss is consensual as can be.
    However, it should be noted that she lies when she tells her friends of the kiss in the elevator.
    I quote, And then he kissed me. [Emphasis is mine.]
    The correct statement would be, And then we kissed.

  11. My answers are based on how the rules are applied, not what the rules are claimed to be. In other words, after watching how cases of sexual assault are pressed or not pressed, I have tried to figure out what the rules are (not the law). After hearing the press and training seminars lecture the public about his, these are my impressions of the rules.

    (1) He is an attractive, probably wealthy man she is attracted to. He did not sexually assault her. If he had been a man she wasn’t attracted to, it would be sexual assault. In such situations, sexual assault depends on how attracted to the man the woman is.

    (2) Women cannot sexually assault men, even if the men are unconscious.

    (3) There is no way for a man to gain consent. Consent depends on the woman’s desire and wants at every instant. She wanted it and enjoyed it, so it was consensual. If a woman gives a videotaped consent just before and at the beginning of an intimate act, but decides she doesn’t want to consent 1 minute into the act, it is assault. There is no way for a man to know with certainty he isn’t committing sexual assault when in a romantic relationship with a woman.

    (4) The woman decides what is sexual assault. Since she didn’t view it as assault, it wasn’t.

    (5) If she doesn’t like it, or regrets liking it later, it is assault.

    (6) It is perfectly fine to do that. Sexual assault depends on how the woman feels about the act. If she later regrets it because she finds out the man has different political views or dated a woman more attractive than her after she cheated on him, it is perfectly fine to claim he sexually assaulted her. Even if it didn’t actually happen, but she had a drunken fantasy about it that she now regrets, he still assaulted her. You don’t have to have a rapist to have a rape anymore.

    (8) None of that matters. It just changes who she can sue.

    (9) If it were a woman or a transgender person, she is required to like it or she is homophobic or transphobic.

    (10) It makes it much more likely that it is sexual assault. The less attractive, available, and wealthy a man is, the more likely this is sexual assault. Only she can determine for sure if it was sexual assault.

    (11) Yes.

    (13) No, there is no excuse. He at least needs to be publicly labeled a sexual harasser, lose his job, pay her a ruinous fine, and he probably needs to go to jail.

    (14) Of course she can. You always have to believe the woman.

  12. 15. Can the actress/female actor five or ten years hence get woke and a lawyer, and charge that having to follow this script gave her herpes and nightmares she has suffered ever since?

  13. In my state, and others I am sure, an uninvited kiss could be considered an assault under the statute (which includes the common law elements of battery), but by definition there is no sexual component to the circumstances of the kiss as described. In forty years I never saw such a situation charged or prosecuted in jurisdictions where I worked.

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