Comment of the Day: “Batter Up! The Hypocrisy of Bigotry Victims Discriminating”

This Comment of the Day from Matt, on my post about gay softball leagues discriminating against bisexuals, is actually two days old.  It was COtD-worthy when it first arrived, but edged out on a competitive day. It is a unique perspective on the issue, and a case of better late than never.

“Its funny… I sing in a gay men’s chorus; we handle music that’s beautiful and “traditional” as well as music that can be emotionally challenging, music about the coming out process or what it means/feels like to be a gay man in society… we’ll sing anything, really, and our primary mission as a chorus is promoting understanding and awareness through music.

“That said, we have straight male singers… we have about 180 men on stage performing, and a handful of them are straight or bi. Ask any of us what we feel about that and the first response you’ll hear is “What, you think *we* are gonna discriminate?”Yes, we’re the only all-male vocal group in the region; however, sing on our stage and or march with us in a parade and you make a public, declarative statement about tolerance and understanding. Isnt that good enough? We are allowed to have gay men perform, and we are also allowed to have bi- or simply allied men perform with us. True, we’re a musical group instead of one built on sport or athletic prowess, but c’mon… who cares if a man is straight when he’s performing in a gay chorus or sports league? Is he a shill? Did you have to find a straight man to swing a bat because you ran into a sudden shortage of burly sporty muscle queens, or is it simply that a man likes to play softball with his friends (whether he’s interested in sleeping with them or not)?

“I can understand the idea of creating safe and allied space; after all, I sing with a huge group in a gay men’s chorus that constantly advocates and creates safe and understanding space for free expression. Our chorus, understandably, is not about to begin performances that either degrade LGBTQ people or begin to promote a heterosexual identity as inherently better than a LGBTQ one, but at the same time we are willing to embrace men (no pun intended, I swear) who are willing to perform with us and alongside us as friends and allies without any moment’s hesitation regarding whether or not those men are sexually involved with members of their own sex. It’s not important in the least.

3 thoughts on “Comment of the Day: “Batter Up! The Hypocrisy of Bigotry Victims Discriminating”

  1. I don’t know if he refers to this particular Gay Men’s Chorus (there’s a large number in USA), but: I’ve been to several concerts by the Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles. In terms of musical quality and accomplishment, they can knock the socks off any other chorus in the region, amateur or professional.

  2. I think I’ll start an all women’s softball league for straight, brown-haired, green-eyed women of Russian and Welsh descent. No other nationalities, races, hair or eye colors allowed. Wouldn’t that be fun?

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