Here is another question to Slate’s sex advice column, “How to Do It”:
I’m a cis woman in kind of a classic millennial sex pickle: I’m really repelled by heterosexuality politically and personally, but I’m also really into dick. I’ve been thinking maybe I should look for bi dudes/ bicurious gay dudes, but I am not sure how best to do that. Rich, what would you think of a woman being on Grindr or Scruff? I do want to be respectful of gay men’s spaces and not horn in where I’m not welcome, but I really would love to find a vers guy with queer politics who would be up for casually dating a woman. What do you think? If you were me, where would you look?
If I were you, I would get help, and quick. You have a weak ego, deficient analytical skills and lack a sufficient sense of self and self-esteem. You have obviously been victimized by irresponsible activists and academic peer group ideologues and bullies who you have been unable to find the courage and logic to oppose despite their delusional residence in an alternate reality as fanciful as Oz or Lilliput.
What you are now suffering from are the kinds of mental and emotional maladies typically associated with cults and the victims of brainwashing.
Read more great literature. Go to some baseball games. Explore the songs of Rodgers and Hart, the Gershwins, and Irving Berlin. See some Fred and Ginger movies, especially “Top Hat” and “Swing Time.”
Find new friends who aren’t trying to exploit you. See a therapist. The statement “I’m really repelled by heterosexuality politically” makes as much sense as “I’m offended by shoes” or “Short people have no reason to live.”
Once you realize this, and not before, you’ve been cured.
Good luck. I’ll be rooting for you.